single parenting with Amber Jones

Let me start by saying there is no one who enjoys meeting a man, falling in love, and everything that goes along with that more than me.  However, once you have kids and you are attempting to find a mate it changes the whole ballgame. 

First and foremost you are now looking for not only a mate but also someone who you think will be a positive influence on your kids.  Having said this, you can still find someone for simply a “good time” but frankly, I don’t have time to waste on someone that I’m really not interested in.  I wish I had more time for myself but with very limited time for socializing with adults I feel as though I need to make that time as productive as possible.  So then I think — maybe that is my issue?  Maybe I should just go back to looking to just have a good time and that magical someone will simply “fall in my lap”. 

Any advice on the topic would be welcome………