Jan 15 2009
The Things You Find When You’re Not Looking
Last night a girlfriend of mine called me completely horrified because she had found a condom in her 15-year-old daughter’s drawer. She was putting away the laundry and there it was. At first she thought it was just a joke as her daughters play jokes on her all of the time. But when she asked her daughter about it she said, “Yeah, it’s mine. Zack and I are having sex.” Just matter of fact – like it was not a big deal?!?
She immediately had a break down. In talking with her husband, they decided that they needed to find out what else their daughter had been up to since they obviously didn’t think they knew everything about her any longer. So, they started by looking at her text messages on her cell phone. Turns out, her boyfriend had been sneaking in during the night and they were having sex in her daughter’s room which is directly below theirs – ugh! Talk about a slap in the face!!
My girlfriend is beside herself. She and her husband do not know what to do at this point. When she called I told her that the first thing she needed to do, aside from talking to her daughter about the risks associated with having sex, was make an appointment for her daughter to make sure she isn’t pregnant and doesn’t have any STD’s including HIV. But, unfortunately you are not going to be able to watch her 24/7 so she should think about getting her on birth control as well.
I hope I gave her the right advice…………I wish parenthood came with a manual!!!
I loved Chucky Cheese I live in the UK, but I have been once when I was a child and my parents took me to America. It was fantastic. I’d love to take my daughter, but there are none in the UK. I only wish they would bring it to the UK now that would be great.
Oh wow. I’m not ready for moments like that. My daughter is only ten months old but I do need to prepare myself for situations like that.
I read a blog the other day of a mother who signed herself up for myspace so she could see her daughters. Became her daughters friend, and read comments. (not secretly.) She knew about parties and everything due to comments that were posted. I thought it was a cool way to get to know things about her daughter, and keep an eye on her to keep her safe.
My mom was and still is one of my best friends. She tells me everything which helps, she comes to me for things and I go to her. We are each others best friends really. I think that helped the fact that my husband is the only one I’ve been with.
I’m rambling so I’ll stop now. =)